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| Your Average Christian?? |
Obviously this is in relation to those of us who should know better not new converts...Those of us who have been in this for years not those who are just coming up! Me included...
Yes I know...somebody somewhere is probably rolling their eyes and saying that the church is a hospital - nobody is perfect, or that you can't judge a person's relationship with God or character with the way they dress...that God looks at the heart or who am I to judge...blah blah blah!
That is all noise to me now...If when you finish getting dress in the morning or in the evening (that's the cool time to go out these days isn't it?) and you look like a video honey or a hot MTV babe then please, nobody needs to tell you its wrong.
If you look more like the world in transparent leggings, low cleavage tops, micro - mini skirts and figure hugging outfits then I'm sorry you ARE in the world; there is no two ways about it.
Remember that somebody's daughter or impressionable teenager is watching you and they too cannot see what is in your heart.
And that poor little 14 year old boy who who is sitting behind you in church that has only just reached puberty, he cannot see your heart either. All he can see are your breasts.....Should he be looking at your breasts?
I keep wondering why there is no fear, no shame, no feeling of discomfort or unease. How can everyone be walking around in boob tubes and see through leggins as trousers! I say what is going on?
I am screaming about this because I used to be there a few years ago but the moments when I was dressed inappropriately, I was very uncomfortable and I surely would not have turned up in church in any of those outfits, I was too afraid.
There seems to be another level of boldness at the moment,..
I brought this up with someone and I was told that people are tired of being boring, that the ladies are tired of being single and they want to show the world that christian girls are also fun, sexy, attractive and trendy!!
Hello!!!!!
Why is it that we have to devalue, cheapen and expose ourselves to be attractive? Why are we trying to show the word we're sexy?
Why, why, why??
Are we in competition with the world are we trying to complete our assignments and make it to Heaven?
I'm sorry but if I am walking around half naked, with the top of my breasts showing (it is still my breasts) bringing the image of sex to everyone's mind then I am in the world, I look more like the world and are a child of the world (full stop).
There is no 2 ways about it, this is not a grey area. We only justify it when we want to do it and don't want to let go. I used to convince myself that this is the way beautiful, attractive people dress and it was validated on the pulpit that Holiness is not about dress sense so it is ok.
So I used to wrestle with the Holy Spirit and turn deaf ears to His corection about it.
I have come to this conclusion: You should not look sexy in public as a Christian (I'm sorry). You should be arousing your husband and seducing him for sex in the bedroom not outside and certainly not in church. What else does sexy really mean? Why do I need to look sexy to worship God or to win Souls?
Why should we be in church supposedly there to worship God and our intimate parts are showing? I don't get it? Are our breasts not something that is supposed yo be hidden? Are our bras not undergarments anymore?
We cannot even kneel down in church anymore because our skirts, dresses or jeans are too tight? So what are we really dressed for?
You are dressed to attract male attention!! Am I wrong?
Dress sense is not a Grey area...It is grey because you want to justify your inability to sacrifice seeking man's attention for God's attention.
When I was doing it...I got addicted to the complements, the praise, being center of attention. The adoring or jealous gazes, the whistles, the looks of admiration, the gravitational pull I seemed to have on everybody... I WAS PATHETIC!
Can I give it up for God's attention?
And it is funny that Nobody is offering correction anymore...And if they do, we call them 'old school'. Why?
Tell me, have I become old school?
honestly, the tactics some people are using to 'win souls' these days, i can't help but think when some people do become 'saved' they'll be really disappointed and will feel scammed.
ReplyDeleteDid God say he needed help with marketing the Gospel? The tragic thing is that people think that prancing about half naked is the same as being sexy, actually it's not.
Yesterday I was in ASDA around 9pm, granted it had been a boiling hot day, and a humid evening, but there was no need for the amount of flesh on display. That a lady is wearning a bikini top and hot pants does not make her more attractive than me in my maxi dress.... smh
Not at all...the maxi is the way to go for real decency and royal grace. I have come to distinguish between sexy and attractive or even graceful and elegance. Getting older and maturing in scripture, my standpoint now is that sexy is not for public display but rather for intimate display...
ReplyDeleteThere is something very wrong if you are bringing sex to everybody's mind on road (like the young people say...lol).
although i think i understand the angle this blog is at, i feel its rather harsh. Even some maxi dresses are rather transparent in my own opinion(side tracked a little bit). As we all know that this is a journey with christ and KNOWING him ourselves. its kinda hard to make a hard fast rule as to how anyone should dress(pls don't shoot me). I having fallen guilty a few times of seeing some people in church dressed inappropriate in my opinion and jugded them somewhat, but then i realised some people are just blatanly ignorant as to how this affects others and just havn't caught the revelation yet and not dressing to be sexy but they appear to be. I think the main problem are those that actually with intent, dress like that to create an impression of sexiness and THEY KNOW IT to draw their brethren down or to find a man (sick and needs JESUS). In my opinion they are not exhibiting the heart of Christ, so dare call them wolf amongst the sheep. In this light we need to focus on the intention/heart and deal with dat as oppose creating a hard fast rule as to how one should dress "AS A CHRISTIAN". for example dressing with clothes not too tight to you could mean a size 10 person wearing size 12 but to someone-else they might actually appreciate wearing what fits. There is a very thin line between all this and we need to be very careful because this sort of teachings have caused some of our brethren that have their heart in the right place to become defensive because we have caused them offence. This approach from as long as i can remember has not helped anyone instead things has increasingly gone worst. we need to continue to pray for the hearts of our brethren and also for the grace to continually renew their mind and see themselves the way God see them.
ReplyDeleteITS A WALK TO BE PERFECT AS OUR HEAVENLY FATHER IS PERFECT.
If you really read this you will see that I mean no harm only to say that I should know better and also those of us who 'mature' Christians should also know better.
ReplyDeleteThose new in the Lord obviously often need time to adjust and that's understandable.
If you read 'it's dangerous to be sexy', you'll get a real picture.
Anonymous I love your realness! 'some maxi's are see-through' that's true...I didn't think I gave a hard fast rule? ...I hope I didn't :-(
In fact... You're saying what I'm saying, you just put It better!
Thanks for stopping by... You added a real flavour ...
I would never take it that far - 'wolf among sherps'? That would be taking that scripture out of context! Christ did not mention that scripture on relation to dress sense and it would be inappropriate to do so!
As a mother, I would never smack my baby for doing something she didn't understand.,, I will go as far as saying that would be evil of me.
However I can tell a 5 Year old that she should have known better if she spilt all her food on the floor.
WOW that's deep tho... I am to blame for all the people that are offended and don't want to go To church...
In all seriousness I hear you but breast bums and thighs don't need to be on sure... I used to do it even as a supposedly serious Christian and I should have known better. I guess it's probably because I wished someone had told me 'seriously' with love!
The blog mentions no hard fast rule just the don'ts...lol
Your prayer at the end touched me and that is what we should be doing!!
Thank you so much...