I would have saved myself so many days of truancy from church. Not because I didn't want to go but because I was scared.And I remember wishing the pastors on tv would address it so that I'll know what to do.
Mehn, being sexy is dangerous but nobody told me.
I just thought that's how you're supposed to be and that a woman was supposed to be sexy.. boy was I wrong.
But everywhere was full of them, tv, church the magazines, everywhere. Everyone I admired was selling sexy and so I thought... Boy did I want to be sexy... I gots to be Sexy!!
So I bought mini skirts and booty shorts, body hugging dresses, low cleavage tops and bum hugging demons (I mean denims)... And I thought yeah... Bring on the sexy!!
Man, nobody told me that you can't concentrate when you're on display.. Here, there, everywhere... Everybody wants to mate with you (...oops I mean talk to you). Everybody's giving you the eye... Aargh.. I'm trying to worship.
How do you keep your mind focused on God 100% rather then how good you look or who is or is not noticing you?? Boy it's hard to be sexy...
Boy what I thought were simple stares were mating calls.. Mehn its hard to be sexy...
It's when I thought I'd get me a hot and sexy man to complete my sexy look that I realised mehn it's dangerous to be sexy...
He said - We gotta do what sexy people do that I thought boy I'm not cut out to be sexy...
He looked at me doing a sexy dance and said 'show me what you got' ... I ran for me life and I thought man it's hard work being sexy!
Little did I know that I was a challenge to everyone I was trying to show that I was sexy??
Sexy is a lifestyle not just a look... It is dangerous to be sexy!
My hardest lesson learnt?That it puts you in the wrong place at the wrong time, in the wrong hands... Majoring in minor things!!
interesting post. It's funny, i can relate to this. It's like i want to be sexy, and appear sexy but not deal with the consequences of being sexy. Over the years i've come to dislike the overtly sexy look bordering on slutty. The glares and the stares are very insulting and irritating. I don't like drawing the wrong sort of attention. that said there are some men out there that would still hit on your even if you were in sack cloth.
ReplyDeleteI find that the Holy Spirit and I have a tete a tete every morning where he goes, 'wear a vest under that' put on some tights with that, or 'are you kidding me? - give throw that away.'
I'm learning not to argue or justify anything, when i get dressed, i try to picture the face of the young girls i mentor and think... hmmmm....
But i'd also like to beleive that if I wasn't a youth mentor, i'd still dress decently.
women have been sold as objects of desire through time; but more than ever we are illustrated as sexual objects (see world media). its not such a bad thing to appear sexy given the right context-strip tease for your hubby. not in church and not on a visit to your married friends house for example (sighs) but hey! youve gotta love those days thatyou feel under the weather and you rock youre favourite( FITTED) jeans slap on a lil lipstick and youre wolf whistled by guys in flashy cars(who you wouldnt give the time or day) and you think, 'ive still got it going on' but keep walking.
ReplyDeleteif i were a pastor i wont speak of appropriate dress because when we allow the 'new in christ' to sit under the annoniting its the spirit of God that beautifies us. when man tells us how to dress we may not get it right but when God applies the rod of correction we go from being caterpillars to butterflies.
I get this message more than ever. When I was younger wanted to be sexy by all cost, attracted the wrong men. But now being a Child of God I have to do the opposite which is hard cause even if I don't try I still get the attention I feel bad for it but cant help it cause men see what they want to see even if U are wearing a bin bag. Do God and he will do the rest.
ReplyDelete@ msLuffa...: I totally hear you on that: young people are looking at us and we are their examples. I like to ask myself now: am I sending this young girl into the wrong lifestyle by sending her this message with what I am about to wear?
ReplyDeleteBecause once you get into it as a young person, you can get addicted to the attention it draws. Like Anonymous exposed (sorry anonymous) it is tied to a healthy or unhealthy self esteem I personally believe. We start to get our sense of significance from that attention. If I put my bum hugging jeans on and a tight low cut vest top and I get lots of attention, it means I've still got it.
I have to ask myself why I needed that type of attention to validate my worth? I wrestled with it for yours...it was like a drug to me because I found it easy to draw that kind of attention with my dress sense.
It revealed that I in fact had low self esteem because I had to ask myself why I needed that kind of attention to be validated?
Especially as a child of God?
Boy...I got addicted to dressing a certain way because I knew I would get a reaction or a response.
I disgust myself now...just thinking about it.
@ Marvina...:I work hard to do the opposite now, yes...but it is different case if you are appropriately dressed and you still get attention from guys, I believe that is just normal. We are men and they are women, they will always be attracted to us..fine.
But I just don't want it to be because my bum is pronounced in his face (on purpose...strategically) or that my boobs are in his face...
I now fully understand that it is very against our kingdom's principles to dress this way.
Anonymous...: I am intrigued to hear more about why you think Pastors should not teach the right way to dress as born again christians?
I would have thought it is part of education about their new kingdom lifestyle?
If you are new in a country, I would have thought someone needs to share the basics with you?
Would love to hear more.
Thats true, being sexy can put you in the wrong hands..but u can be sexy without looking slutty
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